When Mo'Nique, Queen of Comedy in 2001, Oscar winner in 2010, asked that we support the boycott of Netflix because of low pay, I sat back and listened to her reasons. I read comments, tweets, blog posts and conversed with others about it all. And then Tracee Ellis Ross claimed that she too, Golden Globe winner, Emmy award nominated actress, is not being paid what she feels she is worth in comparison to a male counterpart who happens to also be an Executive Producer, on award winning comedy show, Black-ish. I again, listened, read and formed an opinion about what was going on.
Promises out of my control, can create a difficult situation if I’m not able to hold up your agreement for x, y and z. With that being said, there are some things that I experiences this year that I ain’t doing in 2019. Not making any promises, but I just ain’t doing them because they are either annoying or cause more anxiety in my semi-in need of therapy of a life.
In the mid 90’s hip hop artists, WuTang defined the acronym for C.R.E.A.M. - cash rules everything around me, get the money, dolla, dolla bills y’all! Fast forward to almost 30 years later, ‘Merica is showing us more than ever that if you don’t have money, you will forever be at the bottom of the totem pole.
Now, let’s be honest here, did I believe every story? Not quite. Do I believe something happened in their interaction with R. Kelly, yes. Do I believe that they were offered fame and was preyed upon by their desire for that fame? Yes. Do I believe that he had a team of players that helped him do the most unimaginable to young girls? Yes. Were their families offered sums of money with a promise that their daughter would be taken care of? Yes. Each woman that had a personal interaction with R. Kelly, had a story to tell. Who am I, or should I ask, who are we as a black culture to not believe in their experience? Within the black culture, we tend to be very suspicious of stories we hear and I don’t know why or when this started.
There is a list of things I do on my phone before the final alarm goes off to tell me to get my ass up before I’m late to work. On the weekends or days off, that constant view of social media before wiping the cold out my eyes or emptying my bladder is an issue. Why do we connect to the outside world in this way? It’s a drug, at least I think so. This unplug challenge came at a great time, this weekend I will go silent and do things not connected to a hashtag.
There are so many different types of podcasts like there are various genres of music. I listen to these podcasts while commuting to work, shopping or just want to have something to listen to in the background of cooking or cleaning.
The idea of this post, is to commit to some self-care every day for the entire month of January. Already, I’m starting the new year committing to self-care challenges and haven’t successfully completed day one. At this time as I type this post - there’s four minutes left till the day - then we’ll be off to a new challenge.
For many of us, the greatest joy in photography is to travel to far-away lands, seeking idyllic locations, that we can only dream about, and then do our very best to capture them. But do we need to travel to capture perfect sights of winter? All around us are places of beauty waiting to be captured and we pass them every day.